Looking and feeling like a sexy woman starts with how we think and feel about ourself.
It’s how we perceive ourselves on the inside that truly represents how we look on the outside. It’s ultimately how we show up in the world.
Wouldn’t you agree that we are attracted to the bold, positive, optimistic people over the sad, fearful and negative people in the world? …but so often we are giving off the wrong signal and attracting the wrong people and things.
It’s time you start to embrace your gifts, stand up and shift to a positive perception of yourself in order to attract the people you want to be around and do the things you want to do.
For those of you that might be a little bit more modest, maybe you don’t like the word sexy. I’ve heard this a lot in my own personal brand. People saying, “Anna, why do you have to use the word sexy?” They get offended by it. And I always kind of laugh because I don’t think of the word sexy as sexual.
I believe that sexiness is a mindset. It’s an attitude and it is a love for ones self.
There’s a lot of things I find sexy. I find food sexy. That’s why I call my recipes, sexy plates. It fuels my body what it needs to be amazing from the inside out. So, when it comes to the word sexy let’s just get clear on the fact that this is a conversation about how we represent ourselves, not just how represent ourselves on the outside but how we’re representing ourselves in the inside as well.
So, I want to talk about what’s sexy.
Girl, you are sexy. Whether you believe it yet or not – all it’s going to take is a shift in your mindset, in your attitude, and in the love that you have for yourself. Because, that will change everything about how you appear to others, to the world and to yourself.
I think about this when a lot of people are so franticly trying to look a certain way. What do you think is more sexy?
Is it a woman with a perfect body who you meet and you’re like, “Wow, she is taking care of that body, holy cow”? Perfect body, in great shape, but then you meet her and she’s super negative. She’s got this really negative attitude when you give her a compliment and she doesn’t take it well. She shies away. She rejects it because you can tell she doesn’t believe it herself and she doesn’t believe in herself. It’s so un-sexy, isn’t it?
Someone that kind of shies away from really living into their beauty and living into their power and chooses to live negatively with a bad attitude is someone that’s hard to be around. I don’t care how beautiful you look on the outside. Your energy is sucking the life, not just from me but from you and I see you dying inside.
That’s not sexy because you can have a woman who doesn’t have a perfect body but she carries herself strong, she’s joyful. She’s optimistic and positive. She gives herself compliments and she accepts fully the compliments that come at her with joy and gratitude.
And she doesn’t have to be perfect to know how perfect she really is.
It’s not about that physical appearance or that number on the scale. For her it’s about how she wants to show up in the world. Not just for others but for herself.
That’s a sexy woman.
The confidence exudes her skin. It exudes in her voice and her tone and her mannerisms.
Man, that’s sexy.
I love meeting people like that. I’m so attracted. Think about how attracted you are to the positive people. To the outgoing, to the bold, to the brave. To the courageous, to the optimistic and positive.
How much more attractive is that than the sullen, the shy, the reserved. The sad, the victim, the woman who thinks she’s not good enough.
If this is how you feel, it’s something that you can turn around. Maybe for too long you or someone you know has never been told it doesn’t have to be this way.
You’re amazing and it’s time you start to realize that and live into it. Its time to start to embrace your gifts and to value yourself. It’s time to stand up and speak your truth.
Don’t worry about perfection. Love yourself because the mindset that you have, the attitude that you exude truly creates that woman that people see. They see it because they hear it and they can visualize your energy just by the way you show up.
So, when we think about this I want you to ask yourself that question because this is a conversation I have with my girlfriends on occasion and this is something I have constantly with my high performance students because attitude, mindset, the way that we perceive ourselves and love ourselves and speak to ourselves and think about ourselves, that is going to change everything in our life.
It’s gonna attract the people that we want to attract.
It’s going to allow us to do the things that we really want to do and so you got to ask yourself, “Am I the woman, when I’m with a group of friends, am I usually bringing the joy? Or, am I the one that’s usually complaining, griping, talking about what stress I’m under?”
You can be under stress, you can share that with your friends, I’m not saying that. But that wouldn’t be all the time.
How are you usually showing up with your group of friends? Or, with your spouse? Or with your boyfriend or with your family? When you show up are you fully there with your energy and your happiness?
We go through low times and it’s okay, you don’t have to fake it. I don’t fake it. Man, when I’m having a bad day everybody knows about it, everybody. They’re always like, “Oh Anna, what’s wrong?” because normally, 90% of the time I’m bringing the joy. I’m full of energy. I’m optimistic, I’m ready to go majority of the time. What are you like the majority of the time?
Ask yourself that question. And then ask yourself, “Am I usually the one in the group who is optimistic? Or am I usually the doubtful one, the fearful one? The worried one?” You always know what friends to call when you need your optimistic friend or your pessimistic, worried, doubtful friend, right? So, which one are you?
The way that you show up and the way that you contribute ideas and the way that you perceive the world matters.
You’re attracting what you give off, you know that. So give off the optimism. Have a perspective that isn’t living fearful or doubtful or scared or worried. Be optimistic. Be courageous. Those are the characteristics that are making you stand out. That’s what makes you sexy.
Are you always the one who is shying away from the compliment? Are you able to accept a compliment? When people say, “Oh my goodness, girl way to rock that new hairdo. I love it.”
What do you say? What is the first thing you say?
Hopefully it’s thank you and secondly it shouldn’t be a compliment right back to them. I love people that feel that they have to give the immediate compliment right back. I think it’s amazing. I do it myself a lot.. But, I always try to absorb a compliment, because it’s okay. It makes people feel good to give you compliment. Don’t you feel good when you give a compliment?
Do you feel the need to get it right back? Because if you do, then you’re not giving a compliment for the right reasons. If you’re only giving compliments so that you can get a compliment back there’s other work to be done on self.
So, think about absorbing a compliment, saying thank you. Embrace it, love it, enjoy it.
So often women especially are critical of themselves and they’re always judging themselves and if your not judging yourself you’re judging someone else because you judge yourself. Most often the most critical, judgemental people are the ones that are doing that exact same thing to themselves. It’s terrible.
You know that if someone giving you hate on YouTube or someone’s giving you hate on Facebook or Instagram or whatever on social media, they are hating themselves just as much as they’re hating you.
And that’s when I taught my, Ways to Handle Criticism, because it ain’t about me, you can hate on me all day. You can criticize me all day, but it’s not about me. It’s honestly what’s going on within you and so it allows me to detach from that hate or negativity because it’s really not about me at the end of the day. I’m accepting that and that’s what I chose to believe.
If really is about me then I’m believing that I have faults and I’m going embrace insecurities about myself that I didn’t believe before but now that somebody said something, now I believe it.
No, I love myself. I’m going to love myself no matter what because I have to be the first one to do that.
We can’t look for that love from other people. We’ve got to feel it. We’ve got to have that. And so, take a good look at where you’re showing up on the sexy scale babe. Right, are you exuding that joy? Are you exuding that energy and that confidence and that self-love and appreciation? And that optimism? Your mindset, your attitude and your acceptance for yourself, is the sexy scale.
Where are you on the sexy scale?
I want you to pick where you are and then I want you to ask yourself, “How can I shift? How can I level up my sexiness?”
I created a four week mentorship, The Sexy, Confident Woman Formula, because I wanted to have a formula to allow women to get empowered with the tools and the mindset and the strategies in order to shift that scale up.
Every woman is a sexy confident woman. Sometimes, she’s just lost her way.
Sometimes, she’s allowed negative experiences or negative people or whatever it might be, scar her in way that she hasn’t recovered from yet. And sometimes it just that we’ve never thought this way. We’ve never been taught to think this way. Maybe we’ve been suppressed by other people in our lives or we haven’t had the right mentorship. Or, we haven’t had the belief in ourself because we’ve not done the work on our self yet.
I hadn’t done work on myself really until I was in the 30s. Now I’m almost 38 and in that time period I’ve done so much work on myself. I haven’t always been this confident, this bold, this joyful, this energetic, this optimistic.
I have had my lows, especially through my 20s when I’m just trying to get accustom to the freedoms of living on my own and making moves in my career and feeling comfortable in my own skin and meeting men and understanding what I want in my life.
I wish I had a mentor at that time that said, “Hey, you know what? I’m going to teach you some things.”
But you have someone.
Someone who is going to help you become more sexy confident woman and that is because you are going to have a sexy mindset, attitude, and acceptance for yourself and that’s going to change everything about your life.
It’s going to change how you treat your body. It’s going to change how you think about your daily experiences about how confident you are and going for what you want and speaking for what you want. It’s going to change how your mood is, how you embrace people. How you trust others.
Everything about this sexy scale, what I’m taking about today, is so valuable for your joy. This is your life my friends. If you have not done this work, it’s time. I want you in the Sexy Confident Woman Formula.
But, if you’re not going to go into that what are you going to do? Write it down in your notes, on your phone, wherever you are. What are you going to do to make the shift? How are you going to change your mindset and your attitude and the love for yourself?
Step by step. Is it going to be a book you read? Is it going to be a podcast that you look up?
But I want you to take another step today. Especially if you’ve been stuck. I want you to try something new. I want you to go out there and I want you to reach your fingertips wide and I want you to say, “You know what, I really got to do some work on me. I got to start reading more. I got to start doing some personal growth. I got to get into Anna’s program. I need to work with a Life Coach.”
There are so many resources out there in the world today. It’s so important that you take this step. And, I think so often we don’t realize how we are. If somebody is to meet you, how would they describe you? And how would they remember the experience they had with you?
Write that down and if you want it to be different write down how you want it to be. How do you want it to go? How do you want to show up? How do you want to be remembered? What is the influence and impact you want to leave on someone’s life or day?
Then start working towards that. Look at the steps you got to take to get there because everyone comes to me for fitness and nutrition advice and lately it’s been better because more and more people are now coming to me for that high performance coaching. For that Life Coaching. For that personal development because I’m taking about the things that really matter that are shift those other things naturally.
Your fitness and nutrition gets better because you start thinking differently about yourself. You start caring about yourself more. It’s not so hard to stay motivated when you love your body and you want to do good things for it instead of punishing your body because you hate it.
There are so many mind shifts that need to happen in order to sustain lifestyle that gives you the energy and the health and the vitality that you want. So, today I want you to sit down. I want you to look at your sexy scale, right, don’t be afraid of the word.
Comment below here in this podcast and in the notes and in YouTube or wherever you’re watching this and write down how sexy you are. I don’t want you to be afraid.
I want you take a compliment and give it to yourself, right?
Let’s start talking about what really matters when it comes to our health. When it comes to us feeling sexy from the inside out. Because it’s more than just a diet. It’s more than just a workout. It is so much more than that.
To Become Your Sexiest Self
If you want to look and feel like your sexiest self it has to start with your mindset, attitude and love for yourself?
You treat your body better when you love yourself more, you treat others better when you are more accepting of yourself, you become a different person when you shift this sexy scale within.
If it’s about time to level up, start today by listening to this episode and let me help you make these permanent lifestyle changes by guiding you through the Sexy Confident Woman Formula.
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