Being SMART isn’t what you think?
What do you think about when you hear or read the word SMART?
Most people hear the word SMART and immediately relate it to educated, informed or knowledgeable. Of course, that’s the logical correlation.
Today I want to take SMART a few levels deeper and share my definition of SMART as well as my definition of what smart is NOT.
When it comes to our brain, mind, and thought processes, there is so much more to us that facts, figures, equations and strategies right?
Our brain also controls our emotions, feelings and thoughts, which dictate our behaviors and how we experience life.
School Doesn’t Teach This
Most of us go to school to learn the facts, figures and problem solving abilities to become smart. We go through life trying to learn more and become more knowledgeable so that we can get a job, make money, be successful, have a family and be happy.
The problem that most of us experience along the way is a lack of learning and time invested in how to be SMART with our personal thoughts, emotions and feelings.
Unless we went to school for psychology, sociology or other human behavior related specialties, we never took a class about:
- how to feel confident
- tools to build self esteem
- developing healthy relationships
- self love
- overcoming failure
- mantras for a healthy mindset.
Why So Many People Are Unfulfilled?
I believe the #1 reason we have so many unhappy, unfulfilled, bored, lonely, or fearful people in this world is because there is a lack of learning and investment of inner strength and personal empowerment.
Time To Change That
It’s time to incorporate valuable SMART lessons needed for a person to thrive in life. These are the habits and behaviors that take care of our mental and emotional state of being.
This is a core practice of living a Sexy Confident Life….
- These practices help us to be mindful, courageous, kind, and joyous.
- Without taking care of our mindset we begin to get lost in who we are and how we want to live our lives.
- These practices keep us moving in the right direction towards our greatest self.
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Beware of what you’ve heard…. or what your friends have told you!
There are a lot of skeptics out there who have gotten so out of touch with these SMART habits and behaviors that they’ll try and drag you down with them if you don’t watch out!
They may discourage you from taking this seriously by saying:
1. Mindfulness Is A Waste of Time
Most people don’t think they need to invest time in their thoughts.
They don’t value the benefits of improving mindfulness.
Taking 10 minutes a day to improve this area of their life feels like a chore.
They think this stuff is for yogis or monks who meditate all day.
If this is how you feel or how your friends feel I want you to rate how good you and your friends feel overall, on a scale of 1-10?
- How happy are you on a daily basis?
- How excited are you about your life?
- How confident do you feel on a daily basis?
- How much love do you have in your life?
- How great are your relationships?
Those who rate themselves low on these questions are usually not practicing smart steps to creating a healthy strong mindset.
Those who rate themselves at a 10 are investing time in improving their thoughts and being mindful of how these SMART habits effect their daily life and those around them.
2. You Can’t Change What Happens To You
I love when people say this because it’s true, you can’t! You can’t change what’s happened to you in the past or what life experiences you had to live through. But that doesn’t mean you can’t change how you feel about it today and how you want to feel moving forward in your life.
There is a very popular quote by Brian Tracy you might have heard, “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”
Those who choose to live in their past, allow past failures and pain dictate how they feel in the present or define who they are today will always struggle to live their best life.
It’s not easy to master our mind and emotions. It’s hard work to control our attitude and how we deal with disappointment and pain. That’s why it’s critical to work on it!
We don’t learn this in school
We aren’t taught these habits and practices to create a strong and confident mindset unless we seek to find it. Just by reading this blog, you are working on mindset and that my friend is awesome.
You Can Fake It!
Maybe you are just like I used to be. Appearing to be happy for the outside world but sad and frustrated in your own world.
Have you ever felt like you were just faking it?
We can all do a pretty good job of faking it right?
Maybe you’re faking it at work. You put on a happy face but really you feel suffocated and want to spread your wings.
Maybe you’re faking it in your relationship. You smile and say I love you but you feel disconnected and unsure of where it’s going.
I had my good days of course but I used to put on a really good act some days.
There were weeks when I felt sad and frustrated with my life. I was exhausted from working my butt off each day, still being broke, having no freedom, striving for a dream but unsure how to reach it. I felt like a failure yet I was making incredible accomplishments.
I was so hard on myself!
I’d cry myself to sleep. I’d write pages in my journal about the true feelings I had just to get them out. I’d use my energy and smile to hide my emotions from others.
I knew it wasn’t healthy and I knew I needed help.
So I looked for inspiration and mentorship.
I began investing in personal development. I started reading non-textbook related books for the first time!
I’m embarrassed to say that I had only read about 4 free reading books outside of school materials since High School.
It just wasn’t a habit I adopted growing up. I never considered myself a reader. I didn’t follow any influencers like Tony Robbins or Robin Sharma. I was living my life relying solely on the conversations and relationships I had with my friends and family to grow as a person.
This changed my life
Once I began reading books by powerful thought leaders, listening to audio books, attending seminars and ultimately investing time to strengthen my attitude, confidence and beleifs, my entire life changed.
Nothing happens overnight
It took time but I started to learn lessons to enhance my positivity, let go of guilt, accept myself, be present, stay mindful of negativity and so much more. I realized the power these habits and practices were making in my life.
- I went from having bad weeks to having a bad day.
- Then from having a bad day to a bad conversation.
Have you ever had a negative experience or person that just crushes your mood one day? It can ruin your entire day right? For some it can ruin their entire week!
The power of becoming SMART
Investing time to strengthen your mindset will decrease the impact and duration these negative experiences or influences have on your life.
We can recover more quickly and feel less damaged by them.
Will you do it?
Will you choose to invest the time in yourself to learn SMART habits and behaviors that take care of your mental and emotional state of being?
Let’s START being SMARTER today!
I want you to commit to 3 new habits starting now.
1. Invest 10 minutes a day in your personal development. This could be listening to a new Podcast or audio book, picking up a new book or following an inspiring blog. Anything that starts to fuel your mind with a more positive attitude, confidence, energy, or mindfulness.
2. Write down 1 of your goals that you aspire to reach. Why you haven’t reached it yet? Then search for 1 resource that will help you progress towards that goal faster. Commit to using that resource!
3. Write down 1 struggle or frustration you have in your life right now. How is this affecting your life? What would it take to overcome this if you had the courage, resources or position to do it?
Sometimes the first step in developing SMART habits and behaviors is developing more awareness of what we want and need to progress in our lives.
Take some time to become more aware of the goals and struggles you are facing right now. Bring some personal development tools into your life.
I know it will begin to change your life as it has mine and I’m excited to continue sharing more SMART steps with you in this community.
It’s my absolute pleasure and honor to connect with you every week to build that deeper foundation of self-love, self-care and empowerment one step at a time, helping you become unstoppable in life.
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